No other caress enables a woman to reach orgasm as easily and rapidly as cunnilingus. The sensations it arouses are irresistible.
Homosexual women have an advantage over heterosexuals here: when a woman sucks another woman’s genitals she knows exactly what to do and where, because she knows what she feels herself when she is at the receiving end.
A man finds it hard to imagine, and he also often feels rather helpless with genital parts that are so small and soft. A woman does not have this problem in stimulating her partner’s penis. This is why it is so important for a woman not to be afraid to guide her partner as he explores her genitals, encouraging him with words and telling him what she wants.
The first thing is not to rush. Take your time, or your woman will get the impression you are merely doing a necessary preliminary job before moving on to more serious matters.
First kiss all the secondary erogenous zones, let your tongue stroll over her breasts, belly and thighs. Pull the pubic hairs with your lips.
Now concentrate more on the crucial zone. Slide your tongue along the outer labia. Separate them and, if you are in a comfortable position, take each of the inner labia between two fingers of one hand, or ask your partner to do it for you.
Now you can see the entrance to the vagina. Tickle it with the tip of your tongue, poke it in a little way. Lick the whole surface of the outer labia. Even though you have not yet touched the clitoris, it is already aroused by your licking caresses. It has filled with blood the way your penis does. Rub your tongue up and down the shaft.
Now you can move on to the button, the tip of the clitoris that just peeks out from the hood – very gently, because it is extremely sensitive. You can lift the hood a little with your fingers. Gently caress the button with your tongue. Turn your tongue around it or give it quick little tongue-flicks.
Close your lips gently round the button, suck in and stroke it gently, gently with your tongue. Continue as long as your partner wants, then continue your caresses moving down towards the vagina.
Throughout these oral caresses, let your hands fondle your partner’s body all over, including the sexual parts your tongue is not immediately busy with. Insert a finger or two into your partner’s vagina if she likes, and rub the inside, the G spot especially if you can find it.
It will take a while, sometimes ten to fifteen minutes, before an orgasm occurs. When it is imminent, the woman’s pelvis often thrusts involuntarily, and she cannot hold back her moans. Often her voice changes so that you will not recognize it.
At this point you and your partner have a choice:
If your penis is stiff enough, you can stop the cunnilingus and penetrate.
Or you can carry on sucking to the point of orgasm, which is always extraordinarily violent; your partner will cry out and sometimes positively yell.
Or, if you are expert in oral sex, you can slow down your stimulation without stopping it completely, and try to keep you partner at this pre-orgasmic stage as long as possible.
N.B.: It is important to know that the clitoris needs to be stimulated for a long time before it reaches the pre-orgasmic stage, but when you stop stimulating it, even for thirty seconds, it will return to normal very quickly, and it will take a good many minutes to work it up to the pre-orgasmic stage again.
Nymphomania, a pathological state that has no equivalent among men, is the direct consequence of women’s capacity for multiple orgasms.
Cunnilingus can be combined with any fantasies the couple can think up. One classic is the tube of condensed milk, which the man squeezes out onto the woman’s labia and then laps up, his tongue moving up from vagina to clitoris. Some women with slightly less sensitive genital parts prefer blackberry or gooseberry jam in place of the milk, as the pips provide a delightful stimulation for the labia and clitoris.
Cunnilingus can be practised in a number of positions.
- The woman lies on one side and bends one knee up. This is a comfortable position allowing her to suck her man
at the same time. But the vaginal entrance is not very-accessible, and this limits the possibilities.
- The woman lies on her back, legs wide, the man on elbows and knees above her with his penis above her mouth.
Variant: man underneath, woman on top. This is the ideal position for simultaneous cunnilingus and fellatio.
Variant: rather than kneeling over her, the man is beside her, leaning on one hip and one elbow. Rather than sucking his penis, the woman puts a hand between his thighs to caress it.
The woman upright, knees slightly bent, and the man on his knees in front of her. This is not a very comfortable position (perhaps best kept for moments of acute desire in small spaces such as lifts and toilets!). Sometimes appreciated by women who like the dominant role.
The woman on her back, knees bent high and wide, buttocks at the edge of bed or table. The man kneels on the floor. The perfect position, as the woman’s genitals are fully accessible.
The woman on hands and knees at the edge of a bed. The man kneeling on the floor, approaching from the rear. Not a very satisfactory position because one cannot lick the clitoris from base to tip. The only advantage is that it provides access to the anus and perineum.
Your choice of position is a matter of personal taste. The most refined lovers prefer to stimulate each other in turn. It is quite hard to concentrate on one’s own pleasure and the other person’s at the same time. This is especially true if you want to follow right through to orgasm; the man is often frustrated because his partner is so overcome at that moment that she involuntarily stops stimulating his penis.
If the couple choose not to practise both forms of oral sex simultaneously, it is worth considering who should begin.
The best solution is cunnilingus first, fellatio second, for a number of reasons.
In the first place, after a clitoral orgasm or any other kind, a woman experiences a long euphoric phase, a good time for caressing and fondling her partner’s genitals. A man, by contrast, feels exhausted for a moment after orgasm, and is less motivated to stimulate his partner.
Another reason is psychological, a question of satisfaction for both sexes. It is natural and agreeable for a woman to want to thank her partner by fellating him. And it is equally agreeable for a man to feel rewarded for the pleasure he has just given his lover.
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